Why do I fantasize about revenge even when I know it’s wrong?

Revenge shows up with a strange confidence. It doesn’t knock. It doesn’t ask whether you’re decent. It just arrives as an image, already lit, already moving, and for a moment it feels clean. You can know it’s wrong and still feel it take up space. Knowing doesn’t always touch the part of you that’s still … Read more

Why do I have intrusive thoughts I can’t control?

Intrusive thoughts arrive with the wrong timing, like someone speaking a private sentence into a public space. You didn’t invite them. You don’t even agree with them. Still they appear, full-volume, and your attention snaps toward them as if attention is something that can be hijacked. What makes it worse is the feeling of ownership. … Read more

Why do I fantasize about revenge even when I know it won’t help?

Revenge fantasies don’t arrive with a plan. They arrive like weather. You can be washing a cup, answering a message, standing in a line, and suddenly you’re watching a scene in your head where the balance finally shifts. You don’t even have to believe in it. It still shows up. There’s a particular irritation in … Read more